Nervous System Regulation: Are We Turning Normal Emotions Into a Disorder?
Nervous system regulation is your capacity to become activated when something matters and to recover when it has passed. It is not the same as being calm. Anger, fear, desire and grief are meant to activate you. The goal is not less feeling, but more flexibility: to feel it, understand it and find your way […]
Somatic Therapy: When Your Mind Understands but Your Body Still Reacts
You understand the pattern. You have talked about it, analysed it and perhaps read several books about it. You know your triggers. You may even know your attachment style. Your shoulders, however, are still somewhere around your ears. Somatic therapy brings attention to physical sensations and responses as part of psychotherapy. It explores how bodily […]
Is My Ex a Narcissist? When Psychological Labels Become a Way of Avoiding Rejection
When did every difficult ex become a narcissist? Short answer: probably your ex is not a narcissist. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a clinical diagnosis that affects a minority of people, while selfishness, lying, ghosting and cold breakups are painfully common human behaviour. You don’t need a diagnosis to name what hurt you. And deciding […]
Back to Reality: Why Do Some Couples Break Up After the Holidays?
he tan is fading. The suitcase is still half-unpacked. There are 347 holiday photos nobody will ever look at again. And suddenly, somebody says: “We need to talk.” Welcome home. There is a popular belief that couples often break up after holidays. The idea is seductive: spend ten uninterrupted days together and apparently you’ll either […]
Attachment Styles and Intimacy: Why You Keep Falling for the Same Person in a Different Body
You meet someone. They are interesting. Attractive. Funny. Emotionally intelligent—or at least they seem emotionally intelligent, which, as many of us have discovered, is not always quite the same thing. You have a great first date. Then another. There is chemistry. Conversation. That delicious feeling of possibility. And then something happens. They take six hours […]
Why Successful People Still Struggle in Love: The Relationship Patterns Intelligence Cannot Solve
You can be successful, intelligent, independent and emotionally aware — and still feel completely lost when it comes to love. You can lead a company but overthink a text message. You can make difficult decisions every day but struggle to leave a relationship that is clearly not giving you what you need. You can be […]
Signs of Sexual Blocks: When Your Body Is Trying to Tell You Something
Why intimacy, desire and pleasure sometimes become difficult — and what our sexual blocks may be trying to communicate. You want intimacy, but something inside you pulls away. Perhaps you love your partner, yet your sexual desire has faded. Maybe you want to enjoy sex, but your mind refuses to switch off. You struggle to […]
Emotional Disconnection in a Relationship: Why You Feel Distant and How to Reconnect
By Dámaris Tenza You can love someone and still feel profoundly alone beside them. You may share a home, a bed, children, plans, responsibilities and years of memories. You may talk every day — about work, appointments, groceries, bills or what needs to happen tomorrow — and yet feel that something essential has quietly disappeared. […]
Holistic Intimacy – Healing Emotional and Energetic Connection
By Dámaris Tenza – CBT & Gestalt Sex and Relations Therapist in Costa del Sol What if True Intimacy Was More Than Just Physical? Many people believe that intimacy is purely about physical connection, but the truth is that deep, fulfilling relationshipsgo beyond the body, they are a fusion of emotional, energetic, and spiritual bonds. […]
Tantric De-Armouring Massage: Releasing Trauma and Restoring Energy
By Dámaris Tenza – Sex Therapist, CBT & Gestalt Therapist, Holosomatic Energy Bodywork Facilitator Trauma does not just exist in the mind, t is stored in the body. The weight of past experiences, emotional wounds, and stress embeds itself in muscles, tissues, and energy centers, often manifesting as chronic tension, numbness, or a disconnection from […]
